Beth,
I wish I could clap 1000 times for this. When I read the title I was initially unsure, but you’ve hit the nail on the head.
As a child I didn’t know how to deal with my anger. I didn’t use it to harm other people, but I would punch walls, doors, whatever I could as a way of unleashing my feelings.
Children aren’t taught how to deal with complex emotions like anger. It’s no fault of my parents that I was such an angry teenager, because more than likely they were raised to try and suppress your anger just the same as I was.
But now, I’m older and wiser, with permanent damage to my right knuckles. I look at my children and want nothing but the best for them. When they get angry, I more often than not become angry in return, which isn’t helpful for any of us.
Thank you so much for sharing this, you have really given me a lot to think about when it comes to not only dealing with my children’s anger, but my own as well.
Jon